I love shooting engagement sessions. I just love it. There is a part of me that loves it more than weddings. I really like getting to know new people and I’ve always enjoyed bringing people out of their shell. Usually my couples are nervous about being photographed, something I completely understand. I hate being photographed. I will do it and won’t make a fuss, but I will rarely ask someone to take a photo of me. Aside from my own wedding, the only time I’ve ever sought out having photos taken of me in recent years, were on trips to London. So really, that’s saying something about London. My point though, is that I totally get it.
When I spoke with Jen, she told me how much her fiance, Brian, hates having his picture taken. Whenever someone tells me that, it’s hard for me to not respond with “CHALLENGE ACCEPTED!!” I obviously want to give my couples lovely photos from their engagement session, but I also want to give them a fun experience. They are of equal importance in my book. I love talking to people and hearing about their lives. I want to joke around with them and be a bit of a goof. My father is an accountant, and I remember him telling me one tax season when I was helping out, “my business is as much listening to and talking to people as it is doing their taxes.” That comment has always stuck with me and I have come to realize that I am as much in the business of listening and talking to people as I am photographing them. The photography brings us together, but building a meaningful relationship has as much to do with our interactions.
This brings me back to my first statement; I love shooting engagement sessions. There are no distractions like on the wedding day. It’s just the three of us enjoying some time together and taking some photos along the way. Getting married is not just about the wedding day and the party, it’s about two people who are choosing to be with one another over anyone else. I think that’s something that as an industry, we have lost sight of. I love how an engagement session can go back to basics in that way. Two people, who love each other, and are choosing to be together. I am so excited to celebrate Jen and Brian’s wedding next month in their own backyard!